Light At The End Of The Tunnel - HappyDays #53 - What Katy Said

Light At The End Of The Tunnel – HappyDays #53

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We have been living with allergies and intollerances in our house for 4 years now, it has become a part of our lives and at times has taken over our lives completely. Little G had a minor lactose intolerance and honestly that was enough for me! Dealing with numerous stinky nappies a day was enough to push me over the edge in those early days. All of that was nothing compared to what I was going to have to face a few years later with LJ.

Nothing prepares you for motherhood does it? Nobody is there handing out guidebooks at the hospital. There are plenty of people offering well intentioned advice but none of it is much help really, only you know your own baby. I knew my own baby and I knew something wasn’t right. Having been down a very similar road with Little G I was better equipped, more able to fight for support, but it was still hard and nobody was there to help me.

LJ as a newborn

LJ was born with CMPA – a cows milk protein allergy, and that meant I was unable to breastfeed. I tried giving up dairy myself but she was so sensitive to it all that it was not enough. At 7 weeks I had to admit defeat and that is where my fight began. Doctors are not willing to hand out formula to just anybody- they want you to earn it! My friend’s little girl almost died as doctors refused to give her what she needed- stating it was just colic. Her mum knew best and I knew best and in the end both of us were able to get the milk we needed for our babies.

LJ eating a bunch of grapes

The journey didn’t stop there though, just when you feel safe in the little bubble that is bottles and specialist formula along comes weaning. Suddenly you are met with food labels and more allergies- we now face soya and gluten as allergen in our house. Something that was only discovered as we introduced solids.

Thankfully supermarkets seem to be realising that allergies are real and there are more and more products out there to make our lives easier. She is at an age now that I cannot fob her off with a ricecake. If she sees us eating something she wants the same.

It can seem never ending at times, as though she will never be a normal child like the others. And yet…

There is hope

This week I made a lasagne. I made it with real white sauce- butter and milk. I sprinkled real cheese on top. And she ate it. She ate it and I waited, I waited for the signs to appear, for the cries and the sleepless night. I waited but they didn’t come. She ate dairy, albeit a small amount but she ate it and she was fine.

This week we saw light at the end of this tunnel and it was amazing.

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22 Comments

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    Louise
    October 17, 2015 at 7:43 am

    So hard when you have to battle to get what you know your child needs and I can imagine that it must be very hard living with allergies especially once your child starts wanting to eat the same things as you. So glad that you are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel as you make your way up the milk ladder and glad that LJ enjoyed eating a proper lasagna. Thanks for hosting #HappyDaysLinky 🙂

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 10:30 pm

      That is exactly it Louise- she now knows what we are eating and knows she is different x

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    You Baby Me Mummy
    October 17, 2015 at 8:30 am

    I am so pleased that she is becoming more tolerant. I have no idea how you cope with an allergy in addition to normal life too. So happy for you xxx

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 10:30 pm

      I cope by feeding her nothing but fruit haha! x

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    Becky, Cuddle Fairy
    October 17, 2015 at 3:46 pm

    Oh wow, that’s too bad you weren’t able to breastfeed. That’s wonderful that she isn’t as sensitive as she once was. I’m lactose intolerant but it didn’t develop until I was 8. I started being able to take dairy when I became pregnant. It’s so odd how it works! I hope the girls will continue to improve & eventually eat whatever they’d like. I know how hard it is reading ingredients all the time & being careful – there are so many different words for lactose & milk protein! Thanks so much for hosting ‘#HappyDays x

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 10:18 pm

      Oh that is so odd you could handle it then! I couldn’t have it at all when I was pregnant- she was obviously preparing me! x

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    Sarah Howe (@RunJumpScrap)
    October 17, 2015 at 4:47 pm

    Such a relief…this was similar to my cousin and she can now eat normally. It’s so shocking that you struggled to get the medical help you needed at the start however! Here’s to some lovely meals you can all enjoy. Thanks for hosting xx #happydays

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 10:17 pm

      It is so nice having her join in with us all as she is getting to the age that she realises she is different x

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    Catie: An imperfect mum
    October 17, 2015 at 6:52 pm

    Food allergies and intolerances are so hard to live with especially as some people don’t treat them as ‘real’ illnesses or issues. I hope she continues to make good progress! #happydays

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 10:16 pm

      It is so annoying when people don’t take it seriously! My mum is one of them! x

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    Rosie @ Little Fish
    October 17, 2015 at 11:02 pm

    It must be so hard dealing with food tolerances on top of everything else you do as a parent. Well done you for dealing with it all so well. That must have been so stressful when LJ was a newborn, I can not imagine what that must be like. But how fantastic that she may be becoming more tolerant – I hope for all of your family that she continues to become more tolerant. You have a beautiful family! x

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 9:51 pm

      Thank you so much Rosie, allergies are becoming so much more common these days but doctors still fail to see them. x

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    Harry's Honest Mummy
    October 18, 2015 at 10:02 pm

    Keep with it Katy. I was covered in eczema as a child (I still have it now) and my Mum had to take dairy and red meats out of my diet. Back then (40 years ago) labelling would have been pretty non-existent, so I have no idea a> how she coped b> what she fed me. All I know is how much hard work and dedication it takes. I take my hat off to you.

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 9:25 pm

      I honestly don’t know what you must have eaten, your poor mum would have had a right job on her hands! x

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    Robyn
    October 19, 2015 at 9:09 am

    Really interested to read this as I also have a little one who can’t handle cow’s milk proteins. He is breastfed because I don’t know where to begin with formula and intolerance, but I’ve been off dairy for 8 months and really miss it. Also now that he’s having some solids it would be so easy if I could give him a little yoghurt or cheese from time to time. I’ve been advised he’ll grow out of it but, like you, I’m nervous about testing it because it’s so awful for all of us when he’s uncomfortable. I didn’t realise dairy was a problem for 4 months, despite telling every health professional we saw about his fussiness, spilling and wind. I was told that’s just what babies are like. I’ll know better next time!

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 9:17 pm

      Trust your instinct for sure, mother really does know best xx

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    Lizzie Roles
    October 19, 2015 at 12:16 pm

    What a battle you have been through Katy, as if raising children isn’t hard enough as it is, you’ve handled everything with such grace. So great to hear your little is getting better. A friends little girl is dairy intolerant it’s awful the spots she gets on her face. So glad the supermarkets are taking notice xo

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 9:16 pm

      It is so great to be able to walk into a shop and know they will have things. Thanks Lizzie x

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    Lins @ Boo & Maddie
    October 19, 2015 at 5:41 pm

    I can’t even imagine how difficult it must be as a mother to know what your baby needs but to have others challenge you on it. What happened to mothers intution? Really happy to hear there is some positive progress x

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 9:12 pm

      It is so frustrating, thankfully my own doctor was amazing x

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    Sarah Christie
    October 23, 2015 at 11:28 am

    Thats great news Kate, what you have to remember is allergy or not she is normal you just have to overcome and adapt. We have found all sorts of creative ways to deal with diabetes, Jack is normal just has different needs and this really helps me get my head round it all. However hopefully it all coming to an end, take it easy though one step at a time and fingers crossed it will be resolved soon x

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      Katy
      October 30, 2015 at 9:03 pm

      Oh you are so right Sarah, she is my little normal (if is little bonkers) LJ. xxx

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