Do you get Jealous?

Are you Jealous?

Do you have days when you just wish you could be someone else? Other people seem to have exactly what you want and it just isn’t fair. Right?

I have written about this before in my ‘Keeping up with the Joneses‘ post. Social media shows us a skewed view of other people’s lives and it can leave us feeling as though our own lives aren’t good enough. It is natural to feel envious when you see people with the latest gadget, going on holidays and wearing the latest trends – especially if you haven’t treated yourself in months!

Blogging is no different to real life actually, bloggers often find themselves wishing their blog is bigger and better. They can turn green with envy when other people announce their latest achievements. This may sound awful but it just means that they want to be the best, they are just a little bit impatient. The saddest thing though, is that after turning green they then start to turn blue. They feel as though they are not good enough and feel like giving up altogether.

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Comparing yourself to others is never a good thing, someone somewhere will always be better than you- that is life. That is what makes you strive towards perfection and motivates you to be the best that you can be. Instead of comparing yourself and looking at what everyone else has, you should be looking at what you have and be thankful.

Always be thankful.

It would be wonderful if we could see into the future, to know that everything is going to work out the way we want. But think of it this way, we would love to know that our children are going to grow up being the best and live long and happy lives. But we cannot possibly predict what will happen, so we do our best today and will do our best tomorrow in the hope that we will lay good foundations for their future.

The same can be said about all aspects of life.  So, the next time you find yourself feeling as though life isn’t fair, just tell yourself that it isn’t your time. Not yet. So make the best out of each and every day, enjoy what you have and have faith in all that you do. You are amazing.

56 Comments

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    Shannan
    February 16, 2015 at 10:06 am

    Brilliant read….x

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      Katy
      February 16, 2015 at 4:06 pm

      Thank you Shannan. x

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    martyn
    February 16, 2015 at 11:45 am

    Great post and one that I needed to read and hear at the moment. Life would be great if we could take a glimpse into the future and realise how things will be despite how we’re feeling now.

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      Katy
      February 16, 2015 at 4:05 pm

      That is it, hindsight is a wonderful thing. Things always seem to work out for the best in the end though, even if at the time we don’t see the reason. x

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    Katie @mummydaddyme
    February 16, 2015 at 3:30 pm

    This is an amazing post Katy and I nodded along to every word. I think social media does give you such a tiny glimpse into people’s lives and in a way that’s not a good thing. We all are going through our own things- we chose to show what we chose to show, and sometimes I think people think they know your whole story- that couldn’t be further from the truth. xx

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      Katy
      February 16, 2015 at 4:02 pm

      Thank you so much Katie, that means a lot. People think they know you but nobody ever knows what goes on behind closed doors. xx

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    El and Baby A
    February 16, 2015 at 8:48 pm

    Oh I al always jealous when I browse through people’s perfect instagram pics! Great post xx

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      Katy
      February 16, 2015 at 9:19 pm

      I read something the other day on Ickle Pickle’s blog- saying that ‘mummy has a tidy corner for photos’ and it made me laugh as I bet so many people have that and behind the instagram filter is a huge wash pile! x

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    Jess
    February 16, 2015 at 8:31 pm

    Katy I think this is such a fabulous post and so well said – social media really does give such a skewed view of our lives, it is really easy to think that others are doing so much better than ourselves, but often this is just not the case. Live for today 🙂 xxx

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      Katy
      February 16, 2015 at 9:21 pm

      Thank you so much Jess. It seems to have struck a chord with many. Everyone has aspects of their lives they wish they could change and yet we look to them and wish we had their lives. Live for today indeed! x

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    Vickie
    February 16, 2015 at 9:12 pm

    I was nodding along to every word of this fab post Katy. You have hit the nail on the proverbial head. There seems to be a lot of ‘why them and not me?!’ going on at the moment in various circles and I don’t understand it at all.

    My Nana, who was a very wise woman, always used to say “What’s for you won’t go by you” meaning if it’s meant to be, it will happen but you need to be patient. They’re words that I live by.

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      Katy
      February 16, 2015 at 9:17 pm

      Your Nana was very wise indeed! I do find myself getting jealous for a brief moment sometimes but then I snap myself out of it as I am healthy, have a beautiful family and have a roof over my head. What will be will definitely be x

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    You Baby Me Mummy
    February 16, 2015 at 10:22 pm

    Ah but YOU are amazing too huni and you need to remember that. I think some comparison if natural, but I hate it when people get bitchy. Comparison is the thief of joy xx

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      Katy
      February 17, 2015 at 9:02 am

      Thankfully I haven’t come across the bitchy side of things, just seen some people feel sad which then makes me get all protective 🙂 Comparison is most definitely the thief of joy. x

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    Nicola Miller of The Millers Tale
    February 17, 2015 at 7:29 pm

    I don’t get jealous or envious at all. I follow the blogs I admire and because of that I always look forward to their posts.

    I concentrate on my own work, trying to improve it and don’t measure myself in relation to what others achieve.

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      Katy
      February 17, 2015 at 9:53 pm

      That is the best way to be Nicola. I try and focus on my own work too, it makes me so sad when I hear people feeling down about their own life. x

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    Cash Carraway
    February 17, 2015 at 8:29 pm

    So true! Thank you, this is just what I needed to read today! xx

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      Katy
      February 17, 2015 at 9:56 pm

      I am glad it rang true, I hope you can look at things and know that what you have is always good enough x

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    Ashley
    February 17, 2015 at 7:32 pm

    A great reminder! Thank you!!

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      Katy
      February 17, 2015 at 9:53 pm

      Glad it helped. Sometimes we do need to hear it to remember we are lucky with what we have x

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    mummyofboygirltwins
    February 17, 2015 at 7:53 pm

    It is good to have things to strive for, and to try improve – but I agree that comparing and then becoming jealous is not healthy. It’s hard though in blogging isn’t it? I always see a header or better font and think “Oooooo” – however I try to be myself and hopefully not get caught up in envy xxxx Great post x

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      Katy
      February 17, 2015 at 9:55 pm

      That is exactly it, I am sure there are people who we may wish our blogs could be like, have people that they wish they were like. Everyone admires someone else. It is just accepting that we are who we are and know that that is good enough x

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    Rosie
    February 18, 2015 at 5:17 am

    Great post. You are right bloggers are as prone to comparison as anyone else – perhaps even more so, as we only see the parts of someone’s life that they choose to share online. As a new blogger I am trying hard to be inspired by other blogs I see, rather than compare myself – but sometimes it’s hard! You are right we should always be thankful every day and strive to be the best WE can be! Thanks for the reminder.

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      Katy
      February 19, 2015 at 8:41 am

      That is it, be inspired but never try and be like them as you are YOU. xx

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    Ali
    February 18, 2015 at 6:03 am

    What wise words. I try and take everything with a pinch of salt with social media as I think people only share what they want. as for blog envy, I try and see the good ones as something to aspire to, without them, we wouldn’t know what makes a good one! (Like your fab post ideas!)

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      Katy
      February 19, 2015 at 8:41 am

      Thank you Ali! I do the same, I look at bigger blogs and aspire to be as big as them. Much healthier way to view it all xx

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    Renee @ Mummy Tries
    February 18, 2015 at 8:11 am

    Well said lovely, the green eyed monster does nobody any good! You might enjoy this http://www.mummytries.com/?p=480

    #SWM

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      Katy
      February 19, 2015 at 8:40 am

      Ooh will have a read, thanks hun x

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    Sara-Jayne
    February 18, 2015 at 10:18 am

    We ARE the Jones Family! You’re so right – but then I take everything on the internet as a huge advertisement and nothing more. I’m hugely competitive, but with myself – and I tend not to worry about anyone else. Funny enough, I named my blog after our name [Keep Up With The Jones Family] as I live miles from my parents and it was a nicer way than FB for them to see the boys. Now I cringe when I wonder if people think I’m some snooty person! I do think if we spent less time peeping over the fence and more time watering our own garden, we would all be happier!

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      Katy
      February 19, 2015 at 8:39 am

      I never look at your blog name and think that at all, if I were a Jones I would have done the same. We definitely need to spend more time water our own gardens (me in the literal sense too hahaaha!!!!) x

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    Louise
    February 18, 2015 at 1:34 pm

    Beautiful post Katy and I so agree with everything that you have said. It is easy to get swept up in what people say on social media and on their blogs and then compare ourselves but we will always come off worse by doing so because we are comparing their highlights with our reality and not really comparing like for like. I always try and remember that trying to be the best version of me is always better than trying to be a inferior copy of someone else. Easier said than done at times I admit, but I do try! 🙂

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      Katy
      February 19, 2015 at 8:36 am

      That is a great way to look at it! You are doing brilliantly Louise so your best is definitely good enough! xx

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    Merlinda Little (@pixiedusk)
    February 18, 2015 at 1:48 pm

    This is .. like describing me. I sometimes try not to go to FB. Why does everyone got a perfect life there? Money and nice houses and just about what I dont have. This is such an eye opener of a post. Thanks for sharing. #sharewithme

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      Katy
      February 19, 2015 at 8:35 am

      People only show their good bits, focus on what you have- you never know, someone may be looking at your fb life and wishing they had this and that x

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    Megan - Truly Madly Kids
    February 18, 2015 at 10:01 pm

    Sometimes people need to say just what you have! Fab post #sharewithme

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      Katy
      February 19, 2015 at 8:33 am

      Thanks Megan, hopefully it will help some that are feeling a bit down xx

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    Sarah Christie
    February 18, 2015 at 11:26 pm

    Fab post Katy you are so right, it is so important to be yourself we are all so different and will have different achievements, I am always so please for people who progress, there is room in the world for all of us xxx

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      Katy
      February 19, 2015 at 8:31 am

      I used to feel a bit jealous but now I just focus on my own achievements and am much happier for it xx

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    Wicked World of Lucas
    February 19, 2015 at 7:25 am

    Great read and so true. I try not to think about what other people have, how successful they are, etc….. because let’s face it, it doesn’t impact on your life. Be happy with what you’ve got and cherish everything dear…….. #sharewithme

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      Katy
      February 19, 2015 at 8:30 am

      That is exactly it, it makes no difference whether someone else is a millionaire or has 10 holidays a year. Great way to look at it. x

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    kidGLloves
    February 19, 2015 at 7:27 am

    The Mothers say – Fab post. There’s a place for everyone in the blogging world as we all have different opinions and experiences and that what makes the blogging world so great :0 #sharewithme

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      Katy
      February 19, 2015 at 8:29 am

      There is definitely a place for everyone. That is why it is so important to find your own voice. It took me a while but I feel like I know who I am as a blogger now 🙂 x

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    Jenny
    February 20, 2015 at 4:00 pm

    It is hard not to pine for the things we see on social media, pinterest, and on other’s blogs. I had a few say my blog is all fluff and no reality so I did a vlog about me normal day in pjs at home with two screaming tots and no makeup on. It’s life but that part is boring so we don’t show it. I bet we all feel this way at least once during blogging though for sure. Thank you ever so much for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

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      Katy
      February 24, 2015 at 10:03 pm

      Oh Jenny- how rude of them to say that!!! I don’t think your blog is fluff!! Forget them and carry on doing what you are doing xx

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    Lisa (mummascribbles)
    February 20, 2015 at 4:25 pm

    This is such a fab post! I often do exactly what you have written and it’s not a healthy way to view life. I should be looking at what I’ve got right now. A good job, a healthy son and a wonderful partner rather than wanting a job I can do at home or my own business, or be a sahm! I can’t do any of those right now so I may as well enjoy what I have! Thanks for making me think about this! #sharewithme

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      Katy
      February 24, 2015 at 10:02 pm

      You are right, sometimes we want those things as they would be best for our family- but the wanting stops us enjoying the now x

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    Mini Travellers
    February 21, 2015 at 7:40 am

    Ooh you have struck a chord with this post Katy! Great post xx

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      Katy
      February 24, 2015 at 9:56 pm

      Thank you Karen x

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    Kat | Beau Twins
    February 23, 2015 at 6:43 pm

    So very true!! It’s so important to be grateful of what we already have. Wise words gorgeous lady! xxx

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      Katy
      February 24, 2015 at 9:24 pm

      Thank you Kat, it is so important to stand back and look at what we have x

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    Mrs H
    February 23, 2015 at 11:38 pm

    I really struggle with this. But unfortunately I think it is part of my make-up. I wouldn’t call it jealousy. That word feels so negative. It is more that I compare myself to others and feel that I am very lacking. It goes hand in hand with getting self-esteem from others. But I am now trying to live in the moment and to be kinder to myself. This involves doing my own thing and not worrying about anyone else. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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      Katy
      February 24, 2015 at 9:16 pm

      I think you are right, some people are prone to it. I am quite bad sometimes but I am learning to shake it off and stand tall. We are all brilliant in our own way xx

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    Everything Mummy
    February 24, 2015 at 11:06 am

    Brilliant post hun i think your spot on! x

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      Katy
      February 24, 2015 at 9:13 pm

      Thank you Amy xxx

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