Keeping up with the Joneses

For years people have been ‘Keeping up with the Joneses’. It always seems as though others have more than you- they have a better house, go on better holidays and dress way better than you.

living life through a filter

 

It is hard not to compare, social media gives us a direct insight into other peoples’ lives. You only have to scroll down your Instagram feed to see perfectly positioned coffees on beautiful coffee tables or a gorgeous newborn sprawled on a beautiful bedspread. Immediately you wish you had a coffee with a swirly milk heart and a new baby to show off!coffee  1

All summer my Facebook feed has been full of holiday pictures- no I do NOT want to see you frolicking on the beach with your tan! Print out your pictures and put them in an album like the good old days!

You can’t help but look though can you? Looking at their lives can give you inspiration for your own right? Wrong. Instead you just look at your own life and see all of the flaws. You find yourself asking why you haven’t had a holiday in 5 years. How come they can afford it and you can’t?

The biggest ‘jealousy’ I have is about prams. As I walk down the street I look down at my buggy- wheels buckled from carrying shopping on the handles. I then gaze at other mums with their iCandy prams and want to run and hide in an alleyway. I begin to imagine all the other beautiful things they own and it makes me feel really disappointed with my own life.

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Instagram is filtered, we all know that. So what if real life is filtered too?

As I gaze at those iCandy owning mummies I begin to wonder. What if they bought that with a credit card? What if they go home to a 1 bedroom flat and eat baked beans on toast?

What if those Facebook holiday photos actually conceal a miserable holiday where the couple had a massive fight and didn’t speak the whole time? They are actually going through a rough patch and are considering a divorce.

What if that cute photo picture (the one with the milky heart) is actually hiding a lonely mum? She is sitting by herself in a coffee shop with a screaming baby, wishing she had real friends.

‘Keeping up with the Joneses’ is all well and good but do we really know what their lives are like?

Next time you find yourself comparing your life to someone elses’, just think, they might be wishing their life was more like yours.

 

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  1. Very true! My husband put it in perspective when I was commenting on someone’s beautiful home – he said there’ll be a pile of washing just out of shot. I bet he was right, no-one wants to show the crappy bits of life but we all have them! x

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  2. So so true! There’s this beautiful skinny gorgeous girl who walks to school with her child in her immaculate pram. But she never ever talks to her baby. When he cries, she does nothing. She just walks on her phone. I see her everyday, twice a day and have never seen her interact. Whilst she is Amazonian looking she seems… Empty. I can’t imagine not laughing and being crazy with my babies. She may have the perfect clothes and perfect figure but I’ll take my wobbly bits and food stained clothes any day to see my kids happy xx

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      I would definitely choose happy babies over material things too! That is really sad about that mum. To me, chatting to my children comes naturally. Some of my friends have had people look at them odd when they talk to their young babies- but why wouldn’t you talk to them? I dunno. :-/

  3. Best post I’ve read in ages! I live in Cyprus and I’m sure from looking at my photos my friends in England think I live a life of lazy days by the pool and the perfect life in the sun, I on the other hand look at their pictures imaging them with their lovely carpeted houses, all nice and snug in winter, shopping, going to the woods and feel I’m missing out! The grass is always greener on the other side.

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      Thank you so much, that has made my day 🙂 Grass is always greener I know I would miss winter if I lived in a hot country but not sure I would be saying that in December!!
      I am hopefully coming over to Cyprus next summer, never been before and haven’t had a holiday in aaaages!
      xxx

  4. Fantastic post, Katy. I often scroll down my instagram feed and find myself turning green at people’s beautiful homes etc. I try to remember that I am so lucky that, whilst it’s not perfect, I have my own home whilst many others are not so fortunate. I try to appreciate what I have, not what everyone else has.

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  5. Such a good post! Comparing is so easy to do today and you end up comparing your life to someones that is represented by only photos and tweets! It sounds crazy when you say it…but we all do it! The grass is not always greener x

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  6. So true. We can often look at others’ lives and think they surely have it better than we do. But scratch beneath the surface and there is usually something that doesn’t ring true, or something that compromises our own values. Great post xx

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  7. I like the way your post ended. It is easy to get so caught up with social media and the impression people try to portray that we lose sight of reality.

    We never fully know what is going on in peoples lives. The big houses or flash cars. The top of the range prams and even the coffee with the swirly heart may all come with a price.

    I’m happy with my lot.To many it may appear not a lot, but to others it may appear to be everything.

    Popped over from #Brilliantblogposts.

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      Exactly, while we are sitting at home wishing we had xyz someone else is sitting wishing they had what we have. Much better to stop worrying and enjoy your lot x

  8. I bring myself back to this all the time Katy – we have no idea what goes on behind closed doors and do we even have a right to know? I almost feel guilty prying into people’s lives on instagram but it’s there for all to see! I love posting photos of my crap life – a little bit of honesty goes a long way 🙂

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  9. Very well put. It’s easy to forget that we all filter our lives to some degree (some more than others), and it’s only human nature to want better than we currently have, no matter how good that may be. But if we’re happy in our own lives, then why be jealous of others? Of course, that’s easier said than done!

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      Definitely easier said than done. I guess you just need to sit down and take stock more often to remind yourself how lucky you are. x

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