7 Ways To Boost Your Confidence - What Katy Said

5 Ways to Boost Your Confidence

Confidence is a funny thing, you either have it or you don’t. Except that isn’t quite true- as you may have it in one area but not in another.

You may excel in one area and come across as the most confident person in the world, and yet when you find yourself in another situation you can be reduced to a bag of nerves, legs turning to jelly!

People always tell me I come across as a really confident person. I think it is because I am a little bit loud at times. I can be confident of course, put me in front of a class of 5 year olds and I am in my element!

However, put me in a new situation such as a mother and toddler group or more recently blogging events and I am reduced to a nervous wreck! I have no confidence in my own social skills and am no good at small talk.

It takes me a long time to feel comfortable and act naturally. If I don’t get welcomed immediately then I rarely go back, who would want to repeat that situation?

A few weeks ago I was on a train to London to attend a blogger event and it suddenly struck me- I was on a train to go to a blogger event!!! Me! Little old me! I hadn’t felt nervous at all, I just hopped on the train as if it were perfectly natural to be going to such an event.

I wouldn’t know anyone there but it didn’t matter, I was going for me.

So it got me to thinking, how can we all gain our confidence?

How to increase your confidence

1. FAKE IT It is only you that knows you are shy. If you pretend to be confident then you will not only convince everyone else but you will start to believe it yourself!

2. SUPPORT Having a great support network to cheer you on will do wonders for your confidence. Whenever I feel nervous I have great friends to turn to that always give me that much needed boost. Knowing other people believe in you can make all the difference.

3. MANTRA Picture those 2 little voices in your head, the one telling you that you cannot do it and the other championing you! What does that positive voice say?

Have a little mantra that you repeat to yourself when you feel shy. When I am feeling shy I remind myself of this:

Action conquers fear.

4. GOALS People often set goals which are too high, then when they do not meet them they feel discouraged. Set mini-goals that you know are within your reach- the more goals you meet the better you will feel about yourself.

5. POSITIVITY People who think positively will attract positivity- fact! When you feel those feelings of self doubt creeping in, switch it up and change those thoughts!

Afraid of going into a new situation? Acknowledge your feelings but remind yourself that you are there for a reason- so stand tall and believe in yourself! And remember to SMILE!

6. CARE You need to learn to put yourself first for a change and look after yourself. Do your makeup, brush your hair, choose outfits that make you feel good. When you look good, you feel good.

Look after your insides too! Drink plenty of water and eat foods that are full of goodness and try to cut out some of the junk. It may well be comfort food but we all know it makes us feel worse in the longrun.

7. PREPARATION Half the time, the reason we feel bad about ourselves is because we feel as though we aren’t good enough. And why do we feel that way? Because we feel out of control in certain situations. Getting organised and being prepared helps us feel in control.

Keep a list of things to do, get into good habits and routines. Get back your sense of control and it will make you feel better about yourself and what you can achieve.


Those are just 7 little reminders to help you find your inner confidence, I hope you can try and implement at least one today. So, whack on some lippy, stand tall and know your worth! 

29 Comments

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    Beth Twinderelmo
    April 30, 2015 at 7:09 am

    I definitely need to channel this. Feeling even less confident due to my expanding waistline and it’s getting me down so much x

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      Katy
      May 2, 2015 at 9:00 am

      Oh hun, going to send you a link to another post x

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    Lisa@intotheglade
    April 30, 2015 at 9:28 pm

    I love this Katy, you are so right. I do a very visible job but as soon as I am myself at home, I am really shy and quiet. It seems that I play a part during work with my lipstick on but p, as soon as I swap it for lip gloss and comfy clothes boom! Confidence out the window ha! X

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      Katy
      May 2, 2015 at 8:49 am

      Oh bless you, but I guess it is nice to put down the barrier and relax x

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    Hannah Budding Smiles
    May 1, 2015 at 8:25 am

    Yay! So true, we all have moments when our confidence is shaken, I’ve certainly become a lot more confident since attending blogging events purely because I know I’ll miss out otherwise, the whole fake it til you make it mentality!xx #TheList

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      Katy
      May 2, 2015 at 8:47 am

      You really do miss out otherwise. You always come across as confident hun so you are doing a great job! xx

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    Leslie Rickerby
    May 1, 2015 at 8:49 am

    Fantastic tips. I see so many people shouting about their blogs and being so proud of them and it makes me wonder about mine really and I never feel brave enough to shout about it. I’m working on a redesign and getting it to a place I’m happy with then I’m gunna be totally faking this whole confidence thing until I believe it!! Will be working on my own little mantra I think.

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      Katy
      May 2, 2015 at 8:46 am

      Your blog is an extension of you so you should always be proud! If you won’t shout about it who will? Good luck with the redesign, I recently did mine and am so happy with it x

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    Louise
    May 1, 2015 at 9:44 am

    Great list Katy – definitely agree with faking it being the first step – it is amazing what a difference it can make. Positive thinking and having mini goals also help. I’m still not very confident in a lot of social situations but I’m getting better at it. Thanks for sharing your tips.

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      Katy
      May 2, 2015 at 8:45 am

      You came across as confident last week hun so you are doing a great job x

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    Sammy at Seize each day
    May 1, 2015 at 11:30 am

    I love this post Katy. I’m kinda the same as in I can be quite loud at times, but then I think I’m actually compensating for my lack of confidence. I really like your five top tips and I shall try to remember them and put into action. Thank you xxx #TheList

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      Katy
      May 2, 2015 at 8:44 am

      That is definitely what I do 🙂

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    Jenny
    May 1, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    Love this post! I’m definitely in the fake it group, fake confidence I mean! It works so well to look like you are a big brave, confident person. 🙂 x

    • Reply
      Katy
      May 2, 2015 at 8:43 am

      I have never been a fake it person but have quickly learned that it is easy and effective 🙂 x

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    Caroline
    May 2, 2015 at 6:56 am

    Great tips I need to learn to fake it especially with blog confidence. X

    • Reply
      Katy
      May 2, 2015 at 8:26 am

      Yes you do- your blog is fab, be proud and smile 🙂 x

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    Jess
    May 2, 2015 at 7:35 am

    Really great advice Katy, I’m not a very confident person but do my best to fake it when I have to, smiling is my way of seeming confident xx

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      Katy
      May 2, 2015 at 8:26 am

      Smiling is the best way! 🙂

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    Leigh - Headspace Perspective
    May 2, 2015 at 3:38 pm

    True confidence is something you gain as you grow older. That’s particularly true of the first point – you come to realise that some people are better at acting! Agree with positivity, too. A smile and wearing something that makes you feel good is great armour. Fab tips, Katy xxx #thelist

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      Katy
      May 2, 2015 at 7:37 pm

      A smile is so important and you are so right, I think as you get older you are more comfortable in your own skin and that brings confidence. xx

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    Lukeosaurus And Me
    May 2, 2015 at 7:55 pm

    Love this and I definitely need to pay attention to these points. I am especially rubbish at feigning confidence and putting on a brave face, it’s always cracked! Ray xx #thelist

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      Katy
      May 5, 2015 at 9:52 am

      Just smile, people love to see a happy face 🙂 x

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    Rosie @Eco-Gites of Lenault
    May 2, 2015 at 10:35 pm

    Could I add 2 more?
    Believe in yourself
    Surround yourself with the people who believe in you
    🙂

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      Katy
      May 5, 2015 at 9:50 am

      Great add ins!! xx

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    Lindsay @ Newcastle Family Life
    May 3, 2015 at 4:04 pm

    I so need to take your advice as i really lack on confidence these days and the idea of attending blogging event terrifies me , god help me at britmums xx #thelist

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      Katy
      May 5, 2015 at 9:46 am

      Haha just smile and say hi to people. I get so nervous but just pretend I am fine and it all works out! x

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    Hannah Mums' Days
    May 7, 2015 at 12:59 pm

    Love this Katy! I read Amy Poehler’s autobiography and she had some great advice for how you talk to yourself in your own head. So when you catch yourself (and this sounds mental but it works!) saying mean things, ‘god, I look fat in that’ or whatever else you need to stop and have a go at that mean voice “hey, leave Hannah alone, she’s my friend and she’s alright” – something like that. i love the idea!!

    Great post, thanks for linking up to #TheList xx

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      Katy
      May 8, 2015 at 11:02 pm

      …something like that! Haha I know what you mean Hannah. I am listening to my happy voice more and more these days x

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