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5 Ways to Boost Your Confidence

Confidence is a funny thing, you either have it or you don’t. Except that isn’t quite true- as you may have it in one area but not in another.

You may excel in one area and come across as the most confident person in the world, and yet when you find yourself in another situation you can be reduced to a bag of nerves, legs turning to jelly!

People always tell me I come across as a really confident person. I think it is because I am a little bit loud at times. I can be confident of course, put me in front of a class of 5 year olds and I am in my element!

However, put me in a new situation such as a mother and toddler group or more recently blogging events and I am reduced to a nervous wreck! I have no confidence in my own social skills and am no good at small talk.

It takes me a long time to feel comfortable and act naturally. If I don’t get welcomed immediately then I rarely go back, who would want to repeat that situation?

A few weeks ago I was on a train to London to attend a blogger event and it suddenly struck me- I was on a train to go to a blogger event!!! Me! Little old me! I hadn’t felt nervous at all, I just hopped on the train as if it were perfectly natural to be going to such an event.

I wouldn’t know anyone there but it didn’t matter, I was going for me.

So it got me to thinking, how can we all gain our confidence?

How to increase your confidence

1. FAKE IT It is only you that knows you are shy. If you pretend to be confident then you will not only convince everyone else but you will start to believe it yourself!

2. SUPPORT Having a great support network to cheer you on will do wonders for your confidence. Whenever I feel nervous I have great friends to turn to that always give me that much needed boost. Knowing other people believe in you can make all the difference.

3. MANTRA Picture those 2 little voices in your head, the one telling you that you cannot do it and the other championing you! What does that positive voice say?

Have a little mantra that you repeat to yourself when you feel shy. When I am feeling shy I remind myself of this:

Action conquers fear.

4. GOALS People often set goals which are too high, then when they do not meet them they feel discouraged. Set mini-goals that you know are within your reach- the more goals you meet the better you will feel about yourself.

5. POSITIVITY People who think positively will attract positivity- fact! When you feel those feelings of self doubt creeping in, switch it up and change those thoughts!

Afraid of going into a new situation? Acknowledge your feelings but remind yourself that you are there for a reason- so stand tall and believe in yourself! And remember to SMILE!

6. CARE You need to learn to put yourself first for a change and look after yourself. Do your makeup, brush your hair, choose outfits that make you feel good. When you look good, you feel good.

Look after your insides too! Drink plenty of water and eat foods that are full of goodness and try to cut out some of the junk. It may well be comfort food but we all know it makes us feel worse in the longrun.

7. PREPARATION Half the time, the reason we feel bad about ourselves is because we feel as though we aren’t good enough. And why do we feel that way? Because we feel out of control in certain situations. Getting organised and being prepared helps us feel in control.

Keep a list of things to do, get into good habits and routines. Get back your sense of control and it will make you feel better about yourself and what you can achieve.

Those are just 7 little reminders to help you find your inner confidence, I hope you can try and implement at least one today. So, whack on some lippy, stand tall and know your worth! 

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Hannah Mums' Days

Thursday 7th of May 2015

Love this Katy! I read Amy Poehler's autobiography and she had some great advice for how you talk to yourself in your own head. So when you catch yourself (and this sounds mental but it works!) saying mean things, 'god, I look fat in that' or whatever else you need to stop and have a go at that mean voice "hey, leave Hannah alone, she's my friend and she's alright" - something like that. i love the idea!!

Great post, thanks for linking up to #TheList xx


Friday 8th of May 2015

...something like that! Haha I know what you mean Hannah. I am listening to my happy voice more and more these days x

Lindsay @ Newcastle Family Life

Sunday 3rd of May 2015

I so need to take your advice as i really lack on confidence these days and the idea of attending blogging event terrifies me , god help me at britmums xx #thelist


Tuesday 5th of May 2015

Haha just smile and say hi to people. I get so nervous but just pretend I am fine and it all works out! x

Rosie @Eco-Gites of Lenault

Saturday 2nd of May 2015

Could I add 2 more? Believe in yourself Surround yourself with the people who believe in you :)


Tuesday 5th of May 2015

Great add ins!! xx

Lukeosaurus And Me

Saturday 2nd of May 2015

Love this and I definitely need to pay attention to these points. I am especially rubbish at feigning confidence and putting on a brave face, it's always cracked! Ray xx #thelist


Tuesday 5th of May 2015

Just smile, people love to see a happy face :-) x

Leigh - Headspace Perspective

Saturday 2nd of May 2015

True confidence is something you gain as you grow older. That's particularly true of the first point - you come to realise that some people are better at acting! Agree with positivity, too. A smile and wearing something that makes you feel good is great armour. Fab tips, Katy xxx #thelist


Saturday 2nd of May 2015

A smile is so important and you are so right, I think as you get older you are more comfortable in your own skin and that brings confidence. xx