9 Amazing Mums You'll Find At The School Gate - WKS

9 Amazing Mums You’ll Find At The School Gate

Mums come in all shapes and sizes, no one mum is the same as another. I have really enjoyed reading about real mums in my weekly feature and by the response it has received it seems you enjoy reading about other mums too.

9 amazing mums you'll find at the school gate. Different types of mums you see at playgroups and at school - which mum are you-

What about you? Are you a good mum? It is a question I ask of myself daily, sometimes I feel like I have all my plates spinning well and other days I feel as though I am surrounded by chaos! Doing the school run every day or going to mummy groups has made me look at other mums and wonder what sort of mum they are. Some look so put together, so on top of it all, some look as dishevelled as me! So what type of mum are you?

The Young Mum-

You have had your children young, people assume you must have got pregnant by mistake, maybe you did- does that matter? People stare at you, make you feel insecure about your abilities to parent your children. You doubt yourself constantly. However, you do what is best for your children, you work hard and give them everything they need. Age is a number, you are an amazing mum.

The Single Mum-

You worry you are not doing everything you need to be doing for your kids. You feel as though they are missing out on having a dad at home. You think that people look at you and say you are a bad mum. What you don’t know is that you are a super mum and a super dad rolled into one. You do all of the jobs without a break. You have our utmost respect. You are an amazing mum.

The Glamorous Mum- 

You make the best of yourself, put on your makeup without fail and always have the best clothes. People assume you must neglect your children to look so wonderful every day- ‘where is the snot on your shoulder?’ they cry! You make the effort because it makes you feel good. What they don’t know is you get up an hour early just to make that effort, you wiped the snot off your shoulder before you left the house after hugging your baby tight. You are an amazing mum.

The Stressed Out Mum-

You are the one with the buggy that tips over and eggs smash on the pavement. You are the one who’s child screams the place down, making you wish the earth would swallow you whole. There is washing piling up and you haven’t brushed your hair in days. You feel like everyone else watches you and judges you, thinking you are a terrible mum. Truth is, we all have those days. You are stressed because you do so much, you have taken on the role of mother, wife, homemaker, cleaner… the list goes on. You do a great job, your children are fed and they are happy. You are an amazing mum.

The older mum- 

You have worked hard to build up your career and are now having your children. You go to the school gates only to find everyone is younger than you, they leave you out. You go home in tears wondering what you did wrong, why did you leave it so late? You are a wonderful person, they are the ones missing out. You have so much love to give and your children love you, there are kind mums waiting to get to know you, I promise. You love your children and you are there for them when they need you. You are an amazing mum.

The Stay at Home Mum- 

You have chosen to stay at home with your children, you have given up the career you once had to be there to wipe the tears from their eyes. You do the crafts, play with dolls and take them to the park, it is great. But then there is the loneliness, the day to day drudgery of it all. It isn’t all playdates and soft play trips, it is washing and cleaning and endless picking up of toys. People ask you what you do all day and you want to scream! You feel guilty for feeling this way. Remind yourself why you chose this, you are doing what is best for your family now, you are an amazing mum.

The Mum of Many- 

You have 3, 4, 5, 6 kids and counting. People look at you as though you must be mad, how can you possibly look after so many children? Some call you irresponsible and make you feel bad for the choices you have made. However, you work hard and each and every one of your children are happy, that is what is important. You love them all and wouldn’t change a thing about the size of your family. You are an amazing mum.

The Working Mum- 

You go to work 5 days a week and your children go to nursery. You feel like a terrible mother when you see that others choose to stay at home. Should you be there every day to play with them, to be there for their first steps? You are doing the very best you can, you are providing for your family and that is something you should never apologise for. Your children love you, you are their mummy and they run to you at the end of each day to give you a big hug. You are an amazing mum.

The Unfriendly Mum- 

You don’t approach others at groups, you walk away when someone talks to you. They go home and wonder what they did wrong to upset you. You are sorry, you have something going on at home. You are not unfriendly, you are unhappy. You wish you had more friends but you are too shy to speak to people. Something went wrong at work, you went to the school gates wearing a frown. You are sorry. Please don’t apologise, people want to know you, let them in. You are an amazing mum.

It doesn’t matter what type of mum you are, we are all mums and we need to stand together. We all do our best for our children, we all want them to be healthy and happy. We need to learn to accept others for who they are, not who we think they are- we are all amazing and that includes you.

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58 Comments

  • Reply
    Mrs H
    March 10, 2015 at 7:43 am

    Katy darling, thank you so much for writing this. It is the most beautiful and inspiring piece of writing. It is also something that I really needed to hear. Thank you. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 9:04 pm

      Thank you so much for this comment and for all your help and inspiration xx

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    Jodie Fisher
    March 10, 2015 at 8:37 am

    I am many of those mums. Mainly the young mum and glamorous one. I’m also very shy and could probably be perceived as being unfriendly.Most the time I certainly don’t feel amazing deep down though

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 9:03 pm

      Well start believing it! Your children love you no matter what- start to see yourself through their eyes x

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    Everything Mummy
    March 10, 2015 at 9:20 am

    i think I’m a cross between young mum and mum of many although i only have 3 people look at me as though I’m mad an worse still i still want another!!

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 9:03 pm

      I would probably think you are mad wanting more as I can’t cope with 2 but I would never judge you as you are a fab mummy xx

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    Lisa@intotheglade
    March 10, 2015 at 1:52 pm

    This is a truly thoughtful well written post Katy! I cross over a few of them too! It is a lovely thing to read in the run up to Mother’s Day when I feel guilty about working! Thank you lovely x

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 9:01 pm

      Thank you for such a lovely comment x

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    Hayley (@hayleyfromhome)
    March 10, 2015 at 1:58 pm

    This is such a beautiful post Kate, I love it! xx

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 9:00 pm

      Thanks Hayley xx

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    Sarah Christie
    March 10, 2015 at 10:36 pm

    Fantastic post Kate i love it, I am the working Mum that always wears make up ha ha x

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 8:58 pm

      Haha!! x

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    All about a Mummy
    March 11, 2015 at 9:17 am

    I’m definitely the Stay at home mum. Whilst I love it there is definitely an element of monotony and isolation. Sometimes I yearn for a day in my old office sitting in front of a computer with no-one tugging at my trouser leg continually. #sharewithme

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 8:57 pm

      I long to wear suits!!! No snot smears! x

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    Lisa (mummascribbles)
    March 11, 2015 at 10:20 am

    This is a great post. I’m that working mum up there and I hate it!! It’s so nice to see that there are downsides to every type of mum though…we are always questioning ourselves. #sharewithme

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 8:56 pm

      I know you hate being that working mum- but I hope you know you are amazing nomatter what xx

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    Dean of Little Steps
    March 11, 2015 at 11:47 am

    I’m probably classed under the “older mum”. I can’t believe there are unfriendly mums out there… Shudders. Perhaps, I’ve been lucky and am only surrounded with lovely mums 😉 #sharewithme.

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 7:56 pm

      You are lucky indeed, sadly I only seem to come across the nasty ones. 🙁

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    Caro | The Twinkles Momma
    March 11, 2015 at 4:01 pm

    I am lots of different kinds of mama — not unfriendly and not young sadly either!! 😉 That said, I’ve never been left out because of my age — maybe that’s because I have a mental age of 12? 😉 Brilliant post lovely xx #ShareWithMe

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 7:52 pm

      Haha, I sometimes feel like I am the same as I was at 14! x

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    Sarah Howe (@RunJumpScrap)
    March 11, 2015 at 8:42 pm

    This is just an all round ace post! I think I’m a few of these too! #sharewitheme

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      Katy
      March 12, 2015 at 10:05 am

      Aww thank you Sarah! x

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    Jess Paterson
    March 11, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    Love this post, Katy. It’s so true – everyone has their own story for the way they are. I’m definitely the buggy tipping over one, even after having three kids I still fall for it! #sharewithme

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      Katy
      March 15, 2015 at 4:09 pm

      ha, I always fall for it too. You just think ‘i’ll just let go for 2…. seconds……’ nope, always falls over. ha!

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    Louise
    March 11, 2015 at 9:01 pm

    Such a beautiful and uplifting post Katy – thank you for sharing this. I am a stay at home mum but see elements of myself in some of the others too. I love the fact that you remind us all that we are amazing mums – we are all different but still trying to do the best we can.

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      Katy
      March 11, 2015 at 9:10 pm

      That is exactly it Louise, every single one of us have strengths and our children love us no matter what. xx

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    Mini Travellers
    March 12, 2015 at 12:30 pm

    Oh gosh I think I cross about 4 of these! ovely post Katy, lovely post!

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      Katy
      March 15, 2015 at 4:04 pm

      Thanks Karen, which four tho? Definitely the glamorous one! x

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    Jenny
    March 13, 2015 at 1:40 pm

    Katy this is truly beautiful and I am always fighting on my blog for us mothers to stick together no matter how we parent and who we are. We all want what’s best for our children and that should be the only thing we ever care about and stop judging each other so harshly we do enough of that to ourselves as parents anyhow. Lovely post. Thank you ever so much for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

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      Katy
      March 15, 2015 at 3:57 pm

      That is exactly it Jenny, I can never understand how some mums can be so judgemental. x

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    Laura
    March 13, 2015 at 3:30 pm

    What a lovely post 🙂 I tihnk I aspire to be the glamorous mum (I’m so not), but in reality I’m the stressed one 😉

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      Katy
      March 15, 2015 at 3:56 pm

      I’d love to be the glam mum too, I am just a frump haha! x

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    Jenni - Odd Socks and Lollipops
    March 13, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    This is an amazing post, I am going to bookmark it and reread it when I am feeling like The Stressed Out mum.
    Thank you…

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      Katy
      March 15, 2015 at 3:54 pm

      Thank you so much Jenni. Hope you aren’t stressed too much xx

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    Mummy Muddler
    March 14, 2015 at 10:16 am

    This is lovely! I’m a combination too but it’s always so reassuring to hear other SAHMs can find it isolating, monotonous etc at times. Those feelings can easily make you feel like a terrible mum x

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      Katy
      March 15, 2015 at 3:47 pm

      It can make you feel like a terrible mum but the fact you worry about it actually means you are amazing x

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    Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks
    March 14, 2015 at 3:21 pm

    Oh what a lovely post, I can’t believe I missed it until now! I am the sahm who wants to be the working mum and maybe even at times I’ve been the “unfriendly” mum but not intentionally that’s when I’ve been stood on the edge of a group with everyone talking in established friend groups too shy to push myself forward, the upshot of this is that now if I ever see anyone who could have been me I always speak to them and smile xx

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      Katy
      March 15, 2015 at 3:45 pm

      I am exactly the same Laura, so shy but always make the effort to talk to anyone else I think looks shy. xx

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    You Baby Me Mummy
    March 14, 2015 at 5:57 pm

    Great post huni and an important message too. You might like one of the first posts I wrote on my blog http://youbabymemummy.com/ramblings/different-types-of-mummy/ Thanks for linking up to #TheList xx

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      Katy
      March 15, 2015 at 3:44 pm

      I can’t remember if I read this or not, I know I read the daddy one. Will go check it out xx

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    Heather
    March 15, 2015 at 9:43 am

    This was such an insightful post! I think I am a mixture of most at one point or another, thanks for sharing x

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      Katy
      March 15, 2015 at 3:40 pm

      Thank you Heather xx

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    Caroline
    March 15, 2015 at 1:25 pm

    This is an amazing post, I am a mix between young mum (was 21 when I had H) and mum of many, although I only have 3 people find it hard to believe I could have 3, Probably with abit of the unfriendly mum too, but only because I am shy and struggle with conversation starters.
    we all need to stick together more.

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      Katy
      March 15, 2015 at 3:39 pm

      Thank you Caroline! I think I can come across as unfriendly sometimes but I am shy too 🙂 x

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    Karen
    March 15, 2015 at 9:15 pm

    Fantastic post. Totally agree with the sentiment. If we start labelling ourselves as different “types” of mum, it can lead us to forget that we are all mums, who love our children and do the best we can for them regardless of our own unique situation.

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      Katy
      March 17, 2015 at 5:46 pm

      Exactly Karen, we are all the same. Just a shame not everyone can see that xx

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    FromMummytoMum
    March 16, 2015 at 12:14 am

    I am the young mum and the stay at home mum and feel judged every single day by it! Us Mum’s do need to stick together and help each other!

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      Katy
      March 17, 2015 at 5:41 pm

      I am sorry you feel judged, hopefully you can see that every mum can be judged by something though and so yes, we all need to support each other x

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    Eimear
    March 18, 2015 at 9:17 am

    A honestly lovely post, and all so well captured, I think I cross over a few of them! #sundaystars

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      Katy
      March 19, 2015 at 6:33 pm

      Thank you Eimear xx

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    Heledd - Running in Lavender
    March 18, 2015 at 9:08 pm

    Great post!! So okay I must be a Stay at Home mum, I’m not young and not unfriendly (I hope), don’t really work and day to day not very glamorous. But I am a mum and I want my kids to be healthy and happy above everything else. #sundaystars

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      Katy
      March 19, 2015 at 6:26 pm

      I always think of you as glamorous Heledd. Happy children are definitely the most important thing xx

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    Lizzie Woodman
    May 12, 2015 at 9:33 am

    Lovely post! I can definitely see myself in quite a few of these little personalities x

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      Katy
      May 14, 2015 at 9:28 pm

      And I hope you can see you are a good mum too x

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