Do you know the thing people say most often when they see me marching along with my brood..
‘Oh you’ve got your work cut out there’
What they are really trying to say is ‘I bet they run rings round you’, ‘I bet they are difficult to control’ etc etc…
I used to nod and smile, say ‘yeh they are a handful, for sure’ but over time it has begun to grate on me. Because actually, they aren’t. People will remark at how well behaved they are when we are out in public but I have always found myself saying ‘Oh they aren’t always like this’ and we nod in agreement. But that is a lie, they are always like it. I am not one to brag, but my kids are actually bloody awesome and if you’ve ever met them, you’ll know they do as they’re told and behave 100% of the time.
I’m tired of pretending otherwise.
It’s like society wants us to fail. Other mum’s like to hear about other mums having a tough time of it, so they can relate and feel better about being in the same situation. Obviously they don’t want others to be struggling but it is just nice not to feel alone. I get that, I really do. But it has got to the point now when I feel like I have to hide how well behaved my own children are in case people hate me for it. Or think I’m pretending everything is rosy.
I can assure you my life isn’t rosy. I have enough washing to set up a launderette, dishes stacked up to the ceiling and I have a pounding headache where I haven’t actually had anything to drink today. I’m sleep deprived and I am grumpy 98% of the time. But my children are not the cause of it (besides the sleep deprivation – the baby is totally taking the blame for that!).
I am not saying my children are perfect, of course they have their flaws. But running rings around me? Difficult to control? Nope, can’t fault them on that. They do as they are told and half the time don’t even need telling.
So, from now on I’m not going to pretend.
I am proud of my children, I’ve raised them to be kind, helpful and respectful of me and of others. So the next time someone says I’ve got my work cut out I’ll tell them this..
‘Actually no, they are pretty damn amazing and I’d have another one if I could!’