10 Ways To Be The Best Wife

I have been married for almost 5 years this August, I am not entirely sure where the time has gone to be honest with you. It only seems a minute that I was planning our big day. In the past 5 years our lives have changed dramatically- we have moved house, changed jobs and had 2 gorgeous little girls.

We have been together as a couple for 12 or so years now and if you have read our love story you will know it hasn’t been plain sailing. We have had our ups and downs but we are now at a point where we understand each other and compliment each other perfectly. I am not saying our relationship is perfect but we are happy – that is all you can ask for isn’t it?

I have not always been a great girlfriend or wife, at times I have been quite difficult (don’t tell Mr F I admitted to that!). But I feel that I am now old enough and wise enough that I know how to be the best wife I can possibly be to my husband.

10 Ways To Be The Best Wife

1. TALK What relationship would you have without being able to have a conversation? You should be able to tell each other anything and know that you are open and honest at all times. Mr F is my best friend and it isn’t even that I feel I should tell him everything- I want to tell him everything.

2. LISTEN Conversations are a two-way process. Take the time to ask about his day and really listen to what he has to say. I am terrible for butting in all of the time and finishing Mr F’s sentences. Recently I have been trying really hard to keep quiet and listen when he speaks.

3. GIVE Give of yourself, in all senses of the word. You are his wife, his partner, his best friend. Love is a bond and that needs to be strengthened. I have found this difficult over the past couple of years, having children can really affect you but finding my confidence has helped loads.

4. LAUGH They say laughter is the best medicine and it definitely helps a relationship if you can share a laugh or two! Make the time to have fun, organise a fun date, watch a comedy after the kids have gone to bed.

5. SHARE It is important to have something in common, it doesn’t have to be a full blown hobby but if you can share a love of movies, a love of football (not one for me but each to their own!) or a love of the outdoors etc then you will always find some common ground. One thing that you should definitely share are core values for your family, agree those as parents and you will always be a united front for your children.

6. TIME There is no point in having something in common if you never make the time to enjoy it. Make time for a date, we have a date night every Wednesday and make sure we turn off our phones and focus on each other. Now that the girls are a bit older we are able to leave them for longer and enjoy more time out too.

7. SUPPORT Does he have a passion? A hobby? Whatever it is that makes him happy you need to make sure you are behind him 100%. Mr F decided 6 years ago that he wanted to do another degree, it was going to cost a fortune but he really felt passionate about it. I supported him throughout and he came out shining!

8. PASSION We have talked about giving of yourself already, what I mean is have some passion in the relationship. The moment you stop caring enough to fight over the little things is the moment you need to worry. I don’t mean full blown arguments but that spark that can ignite an arguement is a good thing- it shows you still care.

9. SPACE If you do argue, don’t try and force the issue. Let him have his space to cool down, men need time to themselves to digest and evaluate a situation. It may be hard and you may think they are not interested as they get on with something else but actually that time will benefit you in the long run – they will most probably apologise when they are done with their alone time.

10. APOLOGISE You should always apologise, no matter how hard it may be. It may hurt your pride and you may cry when you do it but you will 100% feel better for it and your relationship will be stronger.

When I am wrong, I say I’m wrong – Baby’s Dad, Dirty Dancing

I always loved that part in the film, made me cry! There we are, that is what I have learned over the past 12 years. I have a loving husband who works hard to provide for us as a family and he deserves to have a loving and supportive wife who does everything she can to make him happy.

Are you a good wife?