Inside: 7 simple and effective ways to help you stay positive each day.
There are some days, the days where I’ve had little to no sleep, when everything seems to go wrong. We’ll have forgotten to do homework, the uniform isn’t clean, we are late for school and I forget I need to buy a present for yet another birthday party.
I start off relatively calm, think “oh no worries we’ll catch up on the homework later” and manage to use a baby wipe to get the main grime off of their skirts. It’s fine, it will all be fine.
But then the toddler will need changing last minute, nobody will be able to find their school shoes and then I realise I haven’t made their lunch! We are going to be late.
I can feel it happening, my blood pressure rising and the rage building up inside me just waiting to burst out. I seem to lose all sense of proportion and everything becomes a big deal. Everything is just that little bit more awful.
Can you relate?
You aren’t alone, we all feel it. We all have days where negative thinking seems to creep in and send us on a downward spiral. And you know what? That is ok.
You are allowed to feel annoyed. You are allowed to feel irritated. You are allowed to feel upset.
But nobody wants to stay in that mind frame, do they? Once you have allowed those negative feelings, you need to have processes in place that help to lift you up again.
7 ways to stay positive
Thinking positively does not mean you are happy all of the time. Positive thinking is the ability to turn a situation around and hopefully, the following tips will help you do exactly that.
GRATITUDE JOURNALING is something that I have done for the last couple of years and I can’t recommend it highly enough.
Every single day I sit down and write down 3 things that I am grateful for. These aren’t big things or basic things like being grateful for your house, your family or food you eat. I am talking teeny tiny things like being grateful for the daisy your son picked you on the way to town, finding your favourite top buried down the back of your drawer or having 5 minutes to reply to a friend’s text.
Start noticing the little things in life and you will see that you have a lot to be grateful for. And the more gratitude you show, the more positive you will feel on a day to day basis – especially if you write your 3 at the beginning of the day.
REFRAME YOUR THINKING. This is something I am trying hard to do at the moment. It is simply flipping the situation on its head so that something that ordinarily frustrates you becomes a blessing you never realised you had.
– Having a mountain of washing becomes gratitude for owning so many clothes.
– Traipsing on the school run becomes gratitude that your child has access to an education.
– A pooplosion becomes gratitude that you have plenty of nappies in the house!
MAKE TIME FOR YOU. It is crucial to your well-being that you make time to do things just for you. And I’m not talking spa days every week – I am talking about popping on the radio and having a kitchen disco. Making time to paint your nails. Making time to read before bed.
If you don’t make time for yourself you will grow resentful for the life you live. So take the time. Make the time. You need it.
TALK IT OUT. Often we feel isolated in our thoughts and feel as though we are the only ones dealing with various annoyances. But in reality, half of the things that wind us up will also be the bain of your friends’ lives too. So arrange a catch-up with your friends and have a laugh about how annoying it is when your kids run around the house like elephants and when your husband leaves his shoes next to the shoe basket.
A problem shared is a problem halved as they say!
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE. This is a big one. A huge one in fact. If you surround yourself with people who moan, people who whinge, that is what you will start doing and it will bring you down. Even if you go into a situation with the most positive of attitudes, if you spend time with negative people it will lower your mood.
So leave that Facebook group, limit your time with negative friends and find yourself a positive environment to spend your time. Let those positive people lift you up.
MOVE YOUR BODY. How often do you find yourself moping on the sofa, to find that once you get on up and do something you feel better?
Whether it is getting up for a dance around your living room or simply moving from one room to another – change your physical state and therefore change your mental state.
SEE A SOLUTION instead of a problem. Don’t see a pair of jeans as too tight – see the chance to buy yourself a new pair. Don’t see too many toys – see the chance to have a clearout and donate some to charity. Don’t see the negative side to things, seek out the positive. Remember, everything happens for you – so take it on as a challenge and work out the answer.
That’s it, 7 ways that you can learn to take a situation and flip it on its head. Whether that is starting your day off right with a gratitude list or working out the solution to something that is getting you down.
So next time you feel overwhelmed, take a deep breath and think ok, we might be late for school but at least everyone remembered their book bags and I will treat myself to a nice cup of tea when I get home.
Let me know how you get on!