I started this feature to celebrate real mums. Mums are amazing and come in all shapes and sizes but sometimes we can feel alone, we can feel as though we are the only ones struggling to keep on top of things. I want to lift the lid on motherhood so we can all feel part of a sisterhood, to feel proud about our own achievements and know that we are doing the best we can!
Without further a do let me hand over to Louise!
Tell us a little bit about yourself and your family.
I am Louise, mother of Luke (2) and other half of James. We also have a lab x, Murphy who is almost 2 which is like having another toddler in the house! We live in Cork, Ireland.
Describe a typical day in your life
As we both work full time, most weekdays are spent making sure we are organised the night before for the next day. James starts later in the day so I’m out of the house by 8.15am after making sure Luke’s bag is ready for when he goes to his nanny/aunty later in the day.
I collect him at 6pm and we head home where we spend an hour and half playing, having a cuddle on the couch while watching some Fireman Sam and then it’s bath, bottle and bedtime. The rest of my evening is spent doing housework / blogging / getting my dinner / sometimes relaxing until James is home from work.
Weekends are taken as they come, we usually have some plans but if not we just like to relax and spend a lot of time in the countryside in my parents house where Luke loves to explore in the garden. I love the days when James is off during the week as it eases the pressure of trying to make sure everything is organised for Luke to go towhoever is minding him that day, also he’s started to greet me at the front door when he knows I’ve pulled into the drive and I love seeing his smiling face waiting.
What is the best thing about being a mum?
The best thing about being a Mum is the overwhelming feeling of love for Luke, I never imagined it feeling like this. I love watching him sleep and can often be caught sneaking into his room to watch him sleep, so innocent! As annoying as it is sometimes having him wake at 4/5am to come in with us, there really is no better way to wake up than having him lean over me and whisper “Mum” into my face…to pass him my phone so he can watch Fireman Sam J
What have you found hardest about motherhood?
Like a lot of mothers I guess, the lack of sleep in the beginning was extremely hard for me to deal with. Luke wasn’t the greatest sleeper in his first year and we tried everything! When they are this young too it’s so hard to figure out what is wrong when they are upset, these days his vocabulary is becoming more advanced that we don’t have to second guess so much but it’s frustrating when you are trying everything and nothing is right.
How has your body changed?
My hips, oh jeez my hips! They will never be the same again. I still have the wobbly tummy but I just don’t have the time or energy most evenings to do a workout to try and tone it up again, I must try and fit some kind of exercise in though because I do feel better for it.
Do you wear makeup? If so what does your routine look like?
99% of the time I wear make up. Foundation, eyeshadow, mascara and eye liner, oh and I can’t forget my eyebrows. I don’t feel like I can take on the world unless I have my eyebrows coloured in! My make up routine hasn’t changed in years so it usually take me about 10/15mins to do my face each day. Weekdays I get left alone while getting ready for work, the weekends not so much because James is usually at work and Luke loves to try and help me put it on!
What’s in your handbag?
Tissues, lip cream, comb, wallet, various papers that need to be filed away, dummies, raisins, my diary – I’d be lost without that, I have to plan our week in it in advance so everyone knows what’s going on!
What is your relationship with housework?
I’m very much a clean as I go person so most days there’s a bit of house work done but I keep Thursday evenings as my main day for housework when I’ll hoover upstairs, downstairs, wash the floors, clean the bathrooms and get the washing started. I enjoy a bit of house work and ironing relaxes me!
How do you relax?
Ironing! Haha That happens every couple of weeks but mostly I like to sit done and indulge my photography hobby by editing and sorting through pictures I’ve taken. I’m currently doing an online photography course. I like to read and bake and I am always doing my nails.
What’s the best parenting advice you have ever been given?
Not to second guess my mother’s instinct, I know my baby best.
For any new mums out there, what would you like to tell them?
Repeat “This too shall pass” for every phase you find hard or overwhelming, it will get easier. Enjoy the moment with your baby as it’s happening, everything else can wait.
What makes you happy?
Seeing as I spend a lot of the weekdays away from Luke it makes me happy seeing how much he enjoys that time he gets with his aunty or nanny who look after him, it’s easier to go to work when I leave him and he’s smiling and waving and not upset. I’m happiest when I am organised!
And finally, complete this sentence:
I am a great mum because….. Luke is my priority. Everything I do and work for is for him, our family and our future. Also sometimes I let him have chocolate when he’s not supposed to, obviously this makes me an awesome mum 😉
You sound like the perfect housewife for my husband- he would love it if I cleaned as I went along. I am more of a ‘make a pile for later’ kinda girl! I am totally with you on the too tired to exercise of an evening- just not enough hours or energy each day!
You can find out more about Louise and her world over at her blog, Tattooed Lady With A Baby
She is also on Tattooed Lady With A Baby so go say hi!
If you would like to take part in my Real Mums series then email me at email@example.com. x